Planning Your Wedding Day
Planning Your Wedding Day can feel overwhelming, after all, you’ve probably never done anything like this before!
So here’s a guide of how your day will run, and what to expect from me.
Planning Your Wedding Day
Planning your wedding day may seem like a daunting task. I like to meet with all my couples during the early stages of planning a wedding, so we can discuss how you want your wedding to look, what to expect from me, how I work, and what your plans are for your day. I work with lots of amazing suppliers, cake makers, florists, hair and makeup artists, so I like to share my experience of working with them and to help you find the best suppliers to meet your needs. (Secretly I would love to be a wedding planner, and when these knees have had enough, that’s what I plan on doing!)
Lots of couples book about 2 years before their wedding
So it may seem a long time between our initial meeting and the next time you see me, but feel free to contact me at any time during this period if you need any Lots of couples book about 2 years before their wedding. It may seem a long time between our initial meeting and the next time you see me, but feel free to contact me at any time during this period if you need any help with the planning, or if you need any advice. I like to meet with my couples again a few weeks before the big day to go over all the final details and timings.
Planning your wedding day – The Big Day
I generally arrive with you about 2 hours before the ceremony. The shots I take will include your dress, perfume (a full bottle looks better than a half used one), shoes, bridesmaids dresses, and any other important bits and bobs! The rest of the shots I’ll take in the morning will be very documentary style, un-staged, and just capturing the natural flow of bridal preparation.
It’s helpful to have everything ready
If bridesmaid’s dresses have got tags on them, cut them off, or if they’re still in bags, remove them. If you’re getting ready at the wedding venue or in a hotel/cottage, be sure to pack some scissors, you will definitely need them at some point. A sewing kit and plasters/boob tape are also useful! If your shoes have labels on the underside, remove them before you have your nails done.
Remove all the packaging
If you’ve had personalised hangers made especially for your bridesmaids, hang the dresses on them ready the night before, and the same goes for the bridal gown. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on buying personalised hangers though, but it is nice to see some matching wooden ones, nothing nice about a black plastic New Look hanger! If the girls have all got matching shoes and bags, have all of them set out ready to save time.
Let’s get the dress on!
When it’s time to get into the dress, forgive me if I give the girls a little nudge to start getting ready. I’m a bit OCD about time so I will be keeping a close eye on the clock! I will help and do whatever I can to ease any stress or nerves, if that means stepping in to help to do up the dress, or shoes, then I will do my best to help where I can. If your dress is a zip and buttons, a crochet hook comes in handy to pull those little loops over the buttons. If your dress is a lace-up style, allow an extra 10-15 minutes to dress.
Allow enough time
Make sure you allow enough time in the morning for some relaxed bridal portraits before you leave the house. The last thing you want to do is rush and miss this opportunity, so you want to aim to be dressed at least 20 minutes before departure time, so you can enjoy this part of the day, and have some time with your bridesmaids or parents before heading off. Consider this when arranging your timeline with the hair and make-up artist.
I will leave about 5-10 minutes before you, to ensure I’m there ready to capture your arrival. Don’t rush to get out of the car when you do arrive, it’s lovely to capture a shot of you looking out in anticipation.
Making an entrance
When you’re ready to walk up the aisle, I think it’s much nicer to have your bridesmaids walk ahead of the bride. Although some old-fashioned vicars will try and tell you ‘that’s not allowed’. It’s your day! Do what YOU want. And if the bridesmaids walk behind you, no one is going to give them a second look once the bride has arrived. So it’s nice to give them their moment!
Advice for the bridesmaids
Now, this is quite an important thing to remember – Bridesmaids – it’s important to remember to look up and smile as you walk up the aisle. Don’t look at the floor, even though you’ll be tempted to! And don’t walk too fast up the aisle, take it slowly. Advice for the Bride, take some deep breaths and relax your shoulders, take your time, and smile all the way! Advice for the Groom… turn and look at your bride as she walks towards you!
The K Room at FairyhillHolm House
You May Kiss The Bride!
Some vicars don’t even announce this bit, but registrars do! So guys, when you go in for the kiss, make it last! Make it a long and loving kiss, giving me time to get the shot (hoping the vicar/registrar has stepped out of the way) No tongues though eh!
Advice for the bride and groom – when you’re walking down the aisle to make your exit, heads up, lots of smiles, and stop for a kiss at the end of the aisle!
Let’s throw some confetti!
Most guests do not bring confetti to weddings these days. So it’s definitely worth buying your own and having it there ready for that shot. Make sure you have plenty of it, you can never have too much confetti!
Immediately after the confetti shot, I usually get all your guests to gather around you for a big group shot. Doing this quickly means everyone can relax and enjoy their welcome drinks straight after.
Enjoy Every Moment
I don’t want you thinking your wedding day is all about the photos. So I only take you guys away from your wedding party for about half an hour for some couple shots, otherwise, you’ll be missing the party! And keeping the formal stuff to a minimum is what I prefer to do. I like to keep family and formal shots to the bare minimum – the important people only for the really formal stuff. This includes parents, siblings, and grandparents.
Formal is boring for everyone
The rest is very relaxed. I’d rather go to them and capture them in small candid groups. There’s nothing worse than a long list of formal group shots. It’s boring for your guests, and boring for your full set of images. So I don’t need a list of uncles, aunties, cousins and work colleagues! But if there ARE specific people (other than your immediate family) just let me know and we can do it. It’s also quite nice to have a group shot of all the girls & all the boys.
I like to put you at ease in front of the camera, and to get you guys relaxed, especially when it comes to couple shots. Sometimes the groom is the one not so keen on this part of the day, but I find a little humour can go a long way in making them feel a bit more chilled out about it.
And if you’re really worried about the couple shots, and not sure what to expect, then having a Together Shoot prior to the wedding is a good way to get used to doing the couple shots.
Don’t look at the camera
But it’s really very relaxed and natural. I will mostly ask you to NOT look at the camera. To just be with each other, and enjoy some quiet time alone, to look at each other, to cwtch up nice and close, to kiss, hug, walk together hand in hand or practice your first dance! Whatever feels comfortable and natural to you both.
The Bridal Party
When it comes to bridal party group shots, I like to make that bit more fun and silly. So if you hear me shouting “boobs and bums girls” that means give me a pose! Sometimes I like to get the girls throwing and catching their bouquets, and the boys jumping or running towards the camera. Weirdly, when I shout “Give me some spontaneous laughter”, it seems to make people laugh at literally nothing!
The Wedding Breakfast
While you’re eating, I won’t be shooting. This is the one part of the day I’ll leave you guys to it. The last thing guests will want is a camera in their face while they’re enjoying their meal! I will return to the room when you’re just about to start speeches. I’ll do my best to get around the room as stealthily as possible, you may spot me crawling around on my knees like a ninja.
Golden hour is when the magic happens!
Couple portraits are best done around this time. When the sun is low and the shadows aren’t so harsh. If we can catch the sunset, we can achieve some incredibly stunning shots. So if I have to grab you guys for 15 more minutes of couple shots, you won’t regret it!
Let’s get this party started
It’s soon time to cut the cake and get dancing! I’m not keen on an overly formal shot of you cutting the cake, I prefer something a bit different and less traditional.
And then it’s straight onto the dance floor to enjoy your first dance. You’ll be tempted to invite guests onto the dance floor to join in with you, don’t do it! The dance floor will (hopefully) be full all evening, this is the only 3 minutes you’ll get this space to yourselves, and for me to get some lovely shots of just the two of you. Enjoy every minute of it!!
I quite like to finish the day off with some fairy lights or sparkler shots, so if you guys are up for it, and don’t mind sneaking off for 10 minutes, it’s well worth it.
Things to remember:
- A full bottle of perfume
- Crochet hook (for fastening covered buttons on the back of the bridal gown)
- Remove tags and labels off shoes and dresses
- Sewing kit
- Plasters and boob tape
- Headache tablets
- Spare pins for the men’s buttonholes
- Matching hangers for the bridesmaid’s dresses
- No takeaways the night before your big day!
During the current Covid situation, and the rules on meeting people indoors, I’m now holding all meetings either via Skype/Zoom or over the phone.
Bride and Groom preparation photos may not be possible at the moment but will depend on current Government restrictions. We will confirm this closer to your wedding day.
With current restrictions, it’s quite difficult to get the shots, we as wedding photographers, are used to getting during the ceremony itself. We are currently being asked to stay in one spot and not move for the duration of the ceremony, so where I would normally like to quietly move behind the registrar to get shots from both angles, this is currently not allowed. Please consider this when viewing your final set of images. It breaks my heart that I can’t get a good shot of both the bride and groom’s face, but it is what it is, and we have to respect the guidelines, they are there for a reason.
When planning your wedding day, consider the possibility of an outdoor ceremony, that way I can hopefully move around more freely and some of those crucial shots, and you may not have to wear facemasks throughout the ceremony.
It’s worth talking to the registrar and wedding venue in advance if the wearing of facemasks will be compulsory for the ENTIRE ceremony. Or if the bride and groom can remove masks once the ceremony begins. Some registrars are currently only allowing couples to remove facemasks for the kiss.
Check with your venue as well as current government guidelines if confetti is allowed on your day.
When organising group shots, it’s important we do so whilst keeping to the rules, and not mixing households. Having a big group shot may be impossible at the moment, and I will not ask people to stand with other people they don’t normally live with.
Please check the current restrictions with regards to receptions. If receptions are allowed on your wedding day, please understand that it can be difficult to move around the room and get the candid shots I would normally during the speeches. Unfortunately, wedding reception will look quite different for some time to come.
Again, please check current guidelines. If you are allowed to have the first dance, then please remind your guests to give you space on the dance floor, and give us as photographers, enough space to work safely.